The 6 Steps to Emotional Freedom: Your pathway to conscious relationship

The 6 Steps to Emotional Freedom

Do you want to be free of the arguments with your significant other? Of course you do.... then why does it seem so impossible to be in a peaceful, loving connection with the Love of your Life?

Most relationships suffer from the Blame/Shame Cycle and are weighted down with the frustrations of not being validated or heard. Over the past 20 years as a therapist, I see bewildered couples who once were deeply in love and now they are adversaries, enemies in their own home. Hopeless and weary, they are desperate for answers.

If you are able to recognize when you are in the first two steps, Blame and Shame, you have a chance to get out of this painful relationship loop and begin your way down the Forgiveness bridge. Forgiving your loved one as well as yourself, knowing this was their/your best at the time. All of your life experiences leading up to that point are what created that contrast. As you move across the Forgiveness bridge, you will begin to notice a lighter feeling in your body, mind and heart. This feeling then invites you into the fourth step toward Emotional Freedom: Acceptance. Accepting what is... realizing that the past (even if it happened a moment ago) cannot be changed, what you do have control over is the present moment and the future. Your relationship is here to raise your consciousness, to set you free of the human conditioning of your past. Once you accept that and accept that you and your significant other are cooperative components to each other's enlightenment and this event (no matter how uncomfortable it is), is happening for you.... and not to you, you are creating your FUTURE RELATIONSHIP TEMPLATE, bringing in a state of EMPOWERMENT.

By shedding the old paradigm that the other person "hurt" you... or did this to you, you begin to regain your power, realizing that this situation/argument is an invitation to liberation from your faulty core beliefs about yourself, others or the world. This is the time to do your own personal inventory. Ask yourself what is the opportunity for me? Why is this showing up in my life?, Where in my life am I this way? Answer honestly and with the ultimate goal of enlightenment in mind.

Enlightenment is the state of freedom, where your emotional state resides between the emotions of peace, compassion, joy, appreciation and bliss. At the Acceptance step, you "get it" in your mind, but not your heart, just yet. You still feel thrown out of alignment when contrast shows up. Your emotional states range between frustration to rage to hopelessness and every negative emotion in between.

Are you ready to claim your space in the positive terrain of emotions? Then, welcome to step 5: Allowing. This is where you begin to feel free of the old way of feeling and thinking and you begin to feel more in control. You are regulating your emotions. You are choosing peace and it is showing up! You are in charge, not your ego. This embodied feeling of allowing means your heart is on board. Congratulations!! But don't stop here... on the path to enlightenment, you will want to squeeze every ounce of freedom out of every opportunity of contrast.

Once you can move into the final step of Appreciation, you have arrived! Your gratitude for the opportunity that this contrast has provided is beginning to flow from you. You are at a state of peace, your heart is full and your mind is free of the ego stories that you once felt justified to carry around with you. Causing insult to injury... you realize carrying around the negative emotions is no longer a "badge of justified righteousness", but a noose around your neck, weighing you down, imprisoning you.

Appreciation embeds a new way of thinking, making it easier and easier to move through these steps swiftly and ultimately arriving at a state of freedom, self actualization, and consistent emotional regulation!

You might even thank your previous adversary for being the teacher that you summoned to discover who you truly are... pure love, limitless power, infinite intelligence... Divinity Incarnate.

Namaste.

Love Always, Vicki and the Dear One Channel